I proposed, half jokingly, writing an article on patriarchy and why I love it for Convivium.
Never got around to it but now with Fr Hunwicke’s musings and some of the reaction to it I see over at his site and here, I am resurrecting the idea.
Just as there is ecumenism—bad—-and ecumenism—good, there is patriarchy—bad—and patriarchy—good.
Bad patriarchy is all about using superior male strength and might makes right to suppress women and use force and external structures to keep them under control. (Which is not to say matriarchal societies do not have their own systems of control, but I disgress).
Patriarchy is good, patriarchy is the proper order of things when men get the order of life right themselves and submit to God in Jesus Christ and love their wives the way Christ loves the Church and be willing to die for her.
It does not mean lording it over women and children, acting like a jerk and expecting obeisance merely because you are male and bigger. Or suppressing any public expression of female beauty for fear of what it will do to men who obviously can’t control themselves from temptation. Puhleeze.
A truly sacrificial love is required and if you want to know why there is so much rebellion afoot is because men have largely abdicated in that area. If they stick around, they let women run the show because it is easier than to stand firm and correct her and put up with the (hopefully) temporary consequences of making that correction. Or they stick around but they become resentful and bullying because they lack natural authority that comes from their being submitted to Christ and expressing His authority.
Grrrrrrr. (Just kidding. I still like Fr. Hunwicke!)